Death is common. But grief, coming as it does from the loss of a relationship, can be very particular.

Like Henry and like Esther, I had a very special Granny. Aline Rosa Thomas died two days ago aged 98, and she will be deeply missed. She was the best of the Thomas's. Unconditionally kind and more loving than anyone else I knew. My sister and I lived with her as young kids, and then again as teenagers.

She came from a different era, marrying an army officer and having children more than 60 years ago in East Africa. She was the daughter of a village clergyman and was for many years the only Christian Thomas. Now that honour might be mine, if it is, I hope it doesnt last.

Goodnight Dear Granny. X

I'll go back for the funeral, then be back out here in the space of four days.